Do you ever feel anxious at the thought of leaving a place and having other people say they’ll miss you and like having to say goodbye to people..
Naturally because I’m leaving London, I have to leave my job and the people I work with and the customers I see everyday. Today, one of my customers is going on holiday and she’s not gonna be here for my last day and she’s saying goodbye and how she’s gonna miss me, I really don’t cope well with emotions from others or pretty much anyone but my boyfriend, same goes with hugging. And yesterday some of my fave regulars sat there and told me they’re gonna miss me and it’s just made me so anxious for my actual last day. I feel like I should also mention my cafe is inside an office building and we only deal with people who work for one particular company so I see the same people everyday and build relationships with them and they’re like my friends…
But like after this one goodbye and how bad and anxious it’s making me feel, I’m at the point where I want to call in sick on my last day to avoid having to say goodbye to everyone and having to deal with it all..
Anyone have any ideas of how to deal with this and just not run away??? I swear my anxiety will be the death of me hahah. damn.
I face the same problem. I tend to try to avoid goodbyes but people have always hunted me down to do so. Last summer, someone didn’t persist in saying goodbye and I felt a sense of relief but soon enough it haunted me. It’s been the only thing I’ve regretted and right now I wish I had my goodbye. Something I do that helps me is holding something special on days when I’m leaving like giving people free coffee or anything positive that says “hey, this is not a bad thing”. Often, it helps avoid all the emotions or I’d only receive good vibes.
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Yeah, I guess my main thing is like the whole personal goodbye thing just makes it really intense for me and I just want to curl up in a ball. My boss just mentioned organising a goodbye party for me and inviting everyone who works in the company our cafe works for and I hate people making a fuss and everything over me and the thought of a party just for me like makes me want to hide under a table and like I know it’s a super nice gesture but I honestly hate attention being on me…
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Maybe you can speak to your boss about it and ask for something less extravagant
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Yeah our original plan was just like my colleagues and a few drinks at a bar which I’m so much more comfortable with hahaah
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I actually really like your idea of having a positive thing like free coffee making it kinda like a celebration free coffee for all
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I hope you enjoy that day! Yeah, shifting the mood and taking control of it helps a lot!
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